Do you have trouble controlling your anger? Or do you let anger control you and create a person you don't want to be? Written with the emotional needs of men in mind, this book explores the numerous triggers that can provoke a man's anger. In clear, easy-to-understand language, it outlines steps you can take to better manage your anger and emerge a man who is in control of his life instead of being controlled by his anger.

Twenty-two real-life stories describe the devastating impact of anger on men and those around them. Indeed, out of control anger can destroy the three things you probably value the most -- personal relationships, your job, and your health. Your anger may get you into legal trouble, from weeks of court-mandated anger management classes to a loss of property, a divorce, an arrest, a conviction, and time served in jail. In addition to creating serious physical and mental health problems (heart disease, high blood pressure, diabetes, sleep disorders, stress, depression), anger often takes control of you, sending you down a self-destructive path to nowhere -- a path that can have major consequences for you, loved ones, friends, and colleagues.

Here's the book that puts men's angry in perspective and offers seasoned advice on how to avoid deadly anger traps. "Ask Yourself" questions throughout each chapter help you better understand anger by getting you to think about what caused your anger and what you can do to prevent it from controlling you. Clearly written, step-by-step instructions guide you through the process and place you in the drivers seat, steering you away from anger.

Filled with revealing stories and expert advice, this book helps readers discover:

- how to put space between yourself and your anger

- how to handle the 7 ways other people spark your anger

- 7 ways to stay in charge of yourself when you're angry

- a list of potential triggers that helps you identify what makes you angry

- what to say and do in various types of angry situations

Don't fool with anger. It can be dangerous for both you and those around you. With this wise and timely book, you can again take charge of your life and become the person you want to be.

CONTENTS

Acknowledgments vi

Forewords vii

What Angry Men Need to Know and Do

1 What Triggers Men's Anger? 1

2 Take Charge of Your Own Anger 23

3 Seven Ways Other People Try to Control Your Reactions 28

Seven Life-Changing Skills for Angry Men

4 Decide Whether to Talk Now -- Skill #1 39

5 Talk to the Right Person -- Skill #2 42

6 Pay Attention to Their Feelings -- Skill #3 46

7 Find Something in Common -- Skill #4 52

8 Depersonalize the Situation -- Skill #5 55

9 Get to the Real Issue(s) -- Skill #6 60

10 Drop the Grudge -- Skill #7 67

Make a Difference

11 Applying the Seven Skills to Our Opening Stories 74

Images of Angry Men 124

Index 127

Anger Management Resources 132