Introduction |
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1 | (5) |
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5 | (3) |
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Learn to Laugh at Yourself |
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8 | (3) |
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11 | (3) |
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14 | (3) |
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Consider That the Grass Probably Isn't Greener |
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17 | (2) |
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Throw Away Your Scorecard |
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19 | (3) |
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22 | (3) |
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Don't Use Your Partner as a Punching Bag! |
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25 | (2) |
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Ask the Question, ``Whose Quirk Is This, Anyway?'' (Kris) |
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27 | (2) |
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29 | (3) |
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Avoid the Words, ``I Love You, BUT'' |
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32 | (2) |
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Fill Your Life with Opportunities to Express Love |
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34 | (3) |
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37 | (2) |
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Mark Your Calendar (Kris) |
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39 | (2) |
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41 | (3) |
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Stay Away from Ultimatums |
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44 | (3) |
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Allow Time for Transitions |
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47 | (3) |
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Don't Fight Unless the Mood Is Right |
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50 | (4) |
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54 | (3) |
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Put a Positive Spin on It |
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57 | (3) |
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Remember That Your Partner Can't Read Your Mind |
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60 | (2) |
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Set a Good Example (Kris) |
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62 | (2) |
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Don't Fight over Stupid Things |
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64 | (3) |
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Become a World-Class Listener |
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67 | (3) |
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Experience a Sudden Shift |
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70 | (3) |
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Avoid the ``I've Had a Really Hard Day'' Habit |
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73 | (2) |
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75 | (3) |
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Surprise Her with Compliments |
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78 | (3) |
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Stop Wishing She (or He) Were Different |
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81 | (3) |
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Don't Put Your Partner On the Spot |
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84 | (3) |
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87 | (3) |
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Discover What Part You Are Playing |
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90 | (3) |
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93 | (2) |
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95 | (2) |
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97 | (3) |
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Jump-Start Your Relationship |
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100 | (2) |
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Don't Allow Passing Thoughts to Turn into Issues |
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102 | (3) |
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Become a Low-Maintenance Partner |
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105 | (3) |
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108 | (3) |
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Wake Up and Think about Three Things You Love about Her |
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111 | (2) |
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Choose Peace over Irritation |
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113 | (3) |
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Don't Sweat the Occasional Criticism |
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116 | (3) |
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119 | (2) |
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Stop Rehearsing Unhappiness |
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121 | (3) |
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Don't Be the Hero of Every Story |
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124 | (3) |
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Make the Fresh-Start Commitment |
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127 | (2) |
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Avoid Correcting Each Other |
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129 | (3) |
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132 | (2) |
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Take Responsibility for Your Own Happiness |
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134 | (3) |
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Master the Art of the Heart-to-Heart |
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137 | (3) |
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Don't Confuse Your Own Frustration with a Problem in the Relationship |
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140 | (3) |
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143 | (3) |
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146 | (2) |
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Don't Fall into the ``I've Got Time for Everyone but You'' Trap |
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148 | (3) |
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Organize a Charitable Project Together |
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151 | (3) |
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Ask Yourself the Question, ``In the Scheme of Things, Is This Really That Big a Deal?'' |
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154 | (2) |
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Don't Continue Doing the Same Things and Expect a Different Result |
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156 | (3) |
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159 | (3) |
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162 | (3) |
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Allow Your Partner to Be Human |
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165 | (3) |
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168 | (3) |
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Don't Overanalyze the Flaws |
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171 | (2) |
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Choose to Be Supportive (Kris) |
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173 | (2) |
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175 | (3) |
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Remember the Equation: A Happy Person Equals a Happy Partner |
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178 | (3) |
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Ask for ``Dream Updates'' |
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181 | (2) |
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Never Underestimate the Power of Love |
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183 | (3) |
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Don't Let Your Children Come between You |
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186 | (3) |
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Learn to Deflect Occasional Uncalled-for Comments |
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189 | (3) |
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192 | (3) |
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Ask Your Partner the Question, ``What's the Most Difficult Part of Being in a Relationship with Me?'' |
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195 | (3) |
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Don't Question Her (or His) Motives |
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198 | (3) |
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Graciously Receive Compliments |
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201 | (2) |
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Let Go of Your Top Three Pet Peeves |
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203 | (2) |
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Avoid Absolute Statements (of a Negative Nature) |
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205 | (2) |
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207 | (2) |
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Stop Treating Everything Like an Emergency |
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209 | (2) |
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Use Letters as a Communication Tool |
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211 | (3) |
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Don't Make Your Partner Walk on Eggshells |
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214 | (3) |
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Make a Plan to Become More Loving |
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217 | (3) |
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Gracefully Accept Apologies |
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220 | (2) |
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Reflect, for a Moment, on All You Don't Do |
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222 | (3) |
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Practice Regular Stress Prevention |
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225 | (3) |
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Don't Speak for Your Spouse (or Boyfriend, Girlfriend, Fiancee, or Anyone Else)! |
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228 | (2) |
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230 | (2) |
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Cast Away Jealousy (Kris) |
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232 | (3) |
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Allow Your Partner a Few Eccentricities |
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235 | (3) |
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238 | (2) |
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240 | (2) |
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Practice Unconditional Love |
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242 | (3) |
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245 | (2) |
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Say the Words, ``I'm Sorry'' |
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247 | (3) |
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Stay Away from Comparisons |
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250 | (2) |
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252 | (3) |
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Step Aside from Stubbornness |
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255 | (2) |
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Raise Your Standard of Living |
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257 | (3) |
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Allow Your Partner the Space to ``Lose it'' Every Once in a While |
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260 | (2) |
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262 | (3) |
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265 | (2) |
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