What is an ultimate orgasm?

An ultimate orgasm is your personal best orgasm. It doesn’t leave anything at the table. It doesn’t want anything more. It lasts as long as it lasts. It takes as long as it takes. It’s as messy and loud or quiet and tidy as you like. It has no room for shame or apology. An ultimate orgasm comes from questioning, exploring, experimenting, with no concern for how society or religion or anything else defines sex or female orgasm. The ultimate orgasm belongs to you and only you and it is your responsibility to find it, to have it, and to keep it for as long as you want to live a fully sexually satisfying life.

Want to know the secret to having the ultimate orgasm? Knowing your body and being in the zone. That’s it. Lots of tips and tricks and ideas follow later in the book. But first and foremost, we have to empower ourselves to pleasure. No matter how much your partner is committed to your orgasm, you are the only one who can and should be responsible for your orgasm.

There's no judgment. No right or wrong way. No bad orgasms.

Jenny Block, author of Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage (2008 Lambda Literary Award) is a frequent contributor to a number of high-profile publications. Jenny holds both her B.A. and her M.A. in English from Virginia Commonwealth University and taught college composition for nearly ten years. She writes for a wide variety of publications and websites, including The Huffington Post, yourtango.com, American Way, Veranda, The Dallas Morning News, the Dallas Voice, edgedallas.com, literarymama.com, Spirit, chow.com, and ellegirl.com. Her essay “And Then We Were Poly” is included in Rebecca Walker’s book One Big Happy Family: 18 Writers Talk About Polyamory, Open Adoption, Mixed Marriage, Househusbandry, Single Motherhood, and Other Realities of Truly Modern Love. Jenny has appeared on a variety of television and radio programs, including Nightline, Fox and Friends, The Glenn Beck Show, The Tyra Banks Show, Good Morning Texas, The Morning Show with Mike and Juliet, foxnews.com (online video), Playboy Radio, The Alan Colmes Show, The Young Turks, and BBC Radio. Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage was written up and/or reviewed both nationally and internationally in and on a variety of publications and sites, including Publishers Weekly, Library Journal, Glamour, Marie Claire, Curve, Observer UK, Maxi (Germany), Psychologies (UK), Playgirl, NPR’s Morning Edition, The New York Times, feministing.com, the San Francisco Chronicle, The New York Daily News, 2: The Magazine for Couples (Canada), wow-womenonwriting.com, and Baltimore City Paper. Jenny has also spoken in bookstores and other venues all across the country, including Georgetown University and The Science Museum of Virginia. She lives in Dallas.